Kourtney Kardashian, it’s been 25 years, since your mother Kris Jenner had a torrid affair with a younger man, effectively ending her marriage to your dad Robert Kardashian. But you made it amply clear on the May 27 episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians, that the years have done nothing to ease your fury with your disloyal mom. And that’s just not healthy.
“I’m not saying that my mom was being selfish on purpose, but her actions were selfish,” you, Kourtney insisted on the episode. “I can never understand, especially now having a child (myself), how she could have had an affair at that stage of her life as a mom” .
You proceeded to diss your mother at a family dinner. You were “annoyed” that Kris flirted with the caterer at the dinner. “It’s inappropriate. She’s been married for over 20 years,” you complained, then told Kris, “There’s no shame in your game!”
Kourtney, you actually claimed on the show that you aren’t angry with your mother for recently publishing a memoir – Kris Jenner… And All Things Kardashian – in which she wrote in detail about her sexually-charged affair. But I absolutely don’t believe you Kourtney, because you also said that “I think my mom writing this book and being so candid has brought up all these feelings.”
And that is completely understandable. At 33, you are close to the same age as your mother was when she cheated on your father. You were also the only Kardashian child to really remember the trauma of your family falling apart – why wouldn’t you be angry?
I actually think that your mother , Kris,is the one who is far less honest with herself and everyone else. She claims to be clueless that her behavior as a cheating mom all those years ago could still be hurtful to you.
“I’d never have thought in a million years that Kourtney would still be blaming me for something I did 25 years ago. I’m really stunned that this is where we are - still stuck in this awful place,” she tells the KUWTK cameras.
“Don’t you think I paid a price for my actions. Don’t you think I realize who I hurt?” she asked you, Kourtney.
Kris demands to know Kourtney, if “you’re going to punish me for the rest of my f***ing life for something I did twenty-five years ago?”
The answer is so far… yes. Kris may feel she paid a price for her irresponsible behavior and she did – she split up her family. But she has to accept that yes – the trauma and insecurity she created for her children, especially Kourtney – has definitely and not surpisingly, had very lasting effects.
Kourtney, you clearly have unresolved anger issues for sure, but also does the distrust that your mother’s cheating created in you, make you unwilling to trust your partner Scott?
He very clearly points out Kourtney that “you don’t really tell me how you are. You don’t tell me a lot of things… if you’re going to keep everything in, you’re going to blow up one day.”
And he’s right Kourtney. You’ve clearly held in most of your anger towards your mother, just letting it slip out in rude or snide comments or not wanting to see her or share with her. You don’t want her to help look at new Dash store locations with you for example because you find Kris too “annoying.”
But on the other hand Kourtney, you’ve already lost your father, Robert, to cancer. You don’t want to lose the relationship with your mother too. You only have one mother, she’s alive, she does love you and she wants to be involved in your life. She knows what she did was wrong.
“I didn’t do something on purpose, specifically to hurt you and your siblings. I was too young and stupid to make a good decision. Obviously, if I had to do it all over again, I wouldn’t do it,” she tells you. “I carried around a lot of guilt for many years and it took me 20 years to just feel good about myself again.”
I’m sure that’s true Kourtney – your mother Kris, knows she made a huge and irreversible mistake. She can’t take it back now, as much as she would like.
And I’m sure that she would love to take that mistake back almost every day of her life. I bet her seeming anger at your attitude and the reason she asked, “are you going to punish me for the rest of my f***ing life,” reflects her deep, deep frustration with herself because she knows she’s the cause of your anger and she can’t really condemn you for it.
So Kourtney, please, it’s time to forgive your mother Kris Jenner’s mistakes. The initial mistake of having the affair and then her second mistake – writing about it. You have to let go of your anger because it’s only hurting you. It deprives you of enjoying your mother’s love, it deprives you of having your mother’s support. It makes it harder for Kris to be a loving grandmother to Mason and the baby daughter, you’re expecting. And it’s depriving you of the ability to open up to the man you love, Scott Disick.
So whether you need more therapy or simply to talk it out more with your mother, you need to let go of your anger and truly give your mother forgiveness.
After 25 years, it IS time!Bonnie Fuller
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