'Bachelor' Recap: Sean Lowe Channels His Inner Ben Flajnik

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'Bachelor' Recap: Sean Lowe Channels His Inner Ben Flajnik
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This week on "The Bachelor," Tierra the "Tierrable" stole some moves from the Courtney Robertson playbook while Sean Lowe channeled his inner Ben Flajnik.

Tierra Vs. Courtney

During the lumberjack-themed group date, the Red Team (Desiree, Robyn, Sarah, and Selma) won the challenge and were awarded with more alone time with Sean. However, he decided to bend the rules by inviting the losing Blue Team (AshLee, Lesley, Daniella, and Catherine) back for more time. Apparently he didn't want to miss out on time with his "potential wife."

Tierra (who had not been on the group date) took the opportunity to crash the date (without the other women knowing). She whined about how "difficult" the "process" has been for her, gave him a guilt trip about putting her on the two-on-one date, and told him to "trust your heart and make the right decision."

In dating, anytime anyone tells you to "follow your heart," it's usually code for "do what I say, but pretend it was your decision." I'm surprised Tierra didn't pull a Courtney by taking Sean skinny dipping. (Then again, he doesn't seem to be that kind of guy).

We heard numerous ITMs about how Tierra wished she was a fighter so she could "punch some girls." (We saw shades of Courtney waving an imaginary gun, saying "bam bam bam bam bam.")

Later, during a confrontation with Robyn, Tierra accused the other women of being too insecure and obsessed with her. She also said that she didn't need this show, that there were plenty of other guys out there, and that she could get engaged anytime she wanted.

"Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb"

If this week's episode had a soundtrack, it would be "Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb" (from "South Park's" episode "All About the Mormons").

I've seen enough women like Courtney manipulate men like Ben to realize that the enabler is just as much to blame as the Mean Girl.

Unlike Ben who immediately shot down any woman who tried to warn him about Courtney, Sean claimed that he wanted the other women to come to him with these matters. However, any woman who actually tried to talk about Tierra either ended up in the reject limo or causing him to have "serious doubts about our relationship."

Sean accused the women of not being specific enough about why Tierra was not a good fit for him. However, I doubt that he would have listened to them anyway. Jackie actually tried to give a specific example. She talked about how Tierra flirted with another guy at the airport, suggesting that she wasn't here just for Sean. However, he rewarded Jackie's honesty by sending her home and keeping Tierra.

He is really sending a mixed message. He wants the other women to be honest with him, but punishes the ones who are.

Sean continually protests about how much he "hates drama." Could he be overcompensating? From watching these "Bachelor" shows, I've come to realize that people who say they "hate drama" actually end up attracting it the most.

Insanity Is Doing the Same Thing Over & Over Again

Tierra may be a "Tierrarist," and Sean may be getting played, but these "Nice Girls" are not playing a smart game either.

To quote Einstein, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." Haven't these girls watched previous seasons of "Bachelor"? Don't they understand how men work?

Despite Sean's protestations to the contrary, men do not appreciate it when a woman rats out another woman that he's dating. Worst case scenario (Ben), you end up alienating the guy because he thinks you're undermining his judgment. Best case scenario (Sean), you end up in the friend zone. ("Wow she's really looking out for me. She's such a good friend!")

Ladies, here's a spin on an old adage: if you want a guy to lose a Mean Girl, keep your mouth shut, and focus on your relationship with him. Let the Mean Girl implode and fall on her own sword. Eventually, she will have to show her true colors. If the he sees the light, then he really is worth it. If not, then maybe he's not the guy for you.

Other Developments

In other developments, Lindsay had this week's one-on-one date. Despite making an off-putting impression on Sean the first night, Sean's seeing another side of her that he really likes. Lindsay was an army brat who moved around a lot when she was a kid. Now she's eager to plant roots and to build a strong family.

Daniella received the group date rose, but I don't see her sticking around for too long. Sean doesn't seem to be digging the blondes this season. They probably remind him of Emily Maynard.

Robyn, Tierra's mortal enemy in the house, was sent home at the rose ceremony. It's just as a well. Despite the cringe-inducing "chocolate" pick-up line, she seemed a bit too classy and level-headed for a show like "Bachelor" anyway.

At this point, the only way I see Tierra getting eliminated is if she herself implodes or makes a strategic blunder. I don't have a lot of faith that Sean will see through her on his own.

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