Is Amy Poehler the Modern-Day Dear Abby?

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She may be famous for her comedic chops, but Amy Poehler has a lesser-known talent for giving advice!

The actress has dispersed quite a bit of wisdom to the masses over the course of her career, and she seems to just be getting warmed up. In a new essay for The New Yorker, titled "Take Your Licks," Poehler writes about the summer job she held at the age of 17, and hands out some sisterly knowledge on how to know when it's time to hang your hat.

"I quit when the summer ended," she reveals of her stint as an ice cream scooper in Massachusetts. "I had started forgetting to charge for whipped cream. I was failing to use the ice scoop. A customer told me I was banging the drum 'too hard.' She was right. I was angry; I wanted to be gone. It's important to know when it's time to turn in your kazoo. … I was aching for what came next. I felt my whole life stretched out before me like an invisible buffet. I turned toward my future, mouth watering."

The 42-year-old "Parks and Recreation" star likes offering up tips on life for girls so much she even has a YouTube series called "Ask Amy" devoted to answering questions on everything from taking exams to making new friends.

Here are a few of her best nuggets of wisdom:

It's OK to want peace and quiet: "We're so bombarded with noise, and activity, and headphones, and gossip, and jackhammers … so much noise and sound that it's hard to get quiet and to quiet our minds. … Take those quiet moments when you need them. Tell your friends that you need them and to not read so much into them. And if your friends don't understand, that's OK. The way they deal with things and feel things is different than the way you do, and that is what makes you all so special."

Overcoming jealousy will bring you joy: "Rooting for other people's failure does get in the way of your success. You want to try to avoid being a person who's never full, who's never filled up, who can't be satisfied. And the way to do that, I think, is to rejoice in other people's victories. To be happy when people get what they want, because if you can get there — and it's hard, we have to practice every day — … so many gifts and blessings come to you that you can't even imagine."

The more you know, the better you'll be: "Education is power, it changes your whole life; it can create a life for yourself. So the more educated you are, the more you learn about what you care about, you become a more caring person. And if you can speak about what you care about to a person you disagree with, without denigrating or insulting them, then you may actually be heard. And you may even change their mind, or they may change yours."

Sometimes you need a good cry: "Crying gets the sadness out, as they used to say on 'Free To Be You and Me,' which is an old lady reference that you should Google. Sometimes feeling isn't something you have to apologize for or change. But if you feel like it's getting in the way of your message … then I would suggest practicing conflict in small ways. Practice asking for what you want with strangers. Or practice bringing things up that bother you with people that aren't so charged for you."

Loving someone is never a mistake: "Life is short. Go for it. What's the worst that can happen? He tells you he doesn't like you? So what! Opening your heart and being courageous and telling people that you care about them or like them or that you think they're special, only makes you a better, bigger, kinder, softer, more loving person and only attracts more love in your life."

We think Poehler needs a Lucy-esque advice booth!

What do you think of her life advice?

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