Joy Behar did not mince words when she was dissecting the Mayim Bialik divorce on "The View." "(Attachment parenting) leads to detachment marriages," she declared matter of factly, reflecting a judgment shared by many celebrity watchers who have weighed in on the "Blossom" star's recent split from her husband Michael Stone.
Bialik, the author of "Beyond the Sling: A Real-Life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way," may have set herself up for criticism when her marriage did not pan out because her advice book hinted she prioritized child rearing over romance. "My husband and I are the only caregivers for our kids," she wrote. "We have been on three dates in six years, and the only vacations we take are with our kids."
Predicting there would be backlash over her parenting strategy, the mother of two boys attempted to control the message before media pundits and the public could dish on her divorce. She issued an official statement on her blog denying that attachment parenting had anything to do with her marriage's demise:
"After much consideration and soul-searching, Michael and I have arrived at the decision to divorce due to 'Irreconcilable Differences,'" she wrote. "Divorce is terribly sad, painful and incomprehensible for children. It is not something we have decided lightly. The hands-on style of parenting we practice played no role in the changes that led to this decision; relationships are complicated no matter what style of parenting you choose."
As with any celebrity controversy, however, fans predictably lined up like chessboard pieces, either defending the "Big Bang Theory" star's parenting choices or blaming her for the breakup of her marriage.
Reacting to a Time magazine blog on the question, "Was attachment parenting a factor in Mayim Bialik's divorce?" one tweeter sarcastically replied, "Ya think?"
On another blog post about Bialik's denial that attachment parenting played a role in her divorce, a commenter wrote, "Part of having an unhealthy obsession is the fact that you don't recognize it as a problem. So her denying that AP had a role doesn't mean it didn't. Maybe it did, maybe it didn't, but her denial is pretty irrelevant."
And the author of the "Imperfect Parent" blog quoted comedian Heather McDonald who presciently disagreed with Bialik's parenting choices last summer. "No, I did not breastfeed, make organic baby food or co-sleep with my children," she said. "I instead slept with their father, and I am still happily married to him today."
These reactions may seem harsh, especially at a time of personal crisis for the actress who played the young Bette Midler in "Beaches." But despite the inevitable pleas for privacy when it serves their purpose, celebrities cannot pick and choose when they want the public to pay attention to them.
To her credit, Bialik, who has a real Ph.D. in neuroscience, is requesting to share custody of her children with her future ex-spouse so they can remain emotionally attached to both parents.
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